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My Dreams

Gone are the days I look unto my country for hope concerning my future. As days go by I am even frustrated about the terrible economic prospect that stare one in the face from a country that seems to offer nothing but pain to many. Will my dreams ever come true? I wish I could pursue them, but rather than pursue them, the challenges and struggle of daily living seem to get the best of my energies. Sometimes I remember what my dreams for my career or the future had been; I shake my head in pain that they are slipping by.
I feel so helpless now chasing them for problems of life that confront me have made my situation so. I many times wish that a grater force gives me the courage and change the difficult challenges that confront me and enable me get back to the path of my dreams. Now I understand why some say the grave yard is the richest place as many have died without fulfilling their great ideas or dreams due to difficulties of life particularly those posed by an inhuman nation like mine.
I know, for the living, there is hope, is just the many burdens on my shoulders that seem like continually weighing my dreams down, hurt me most. May God help me.


Dealing With Set Backs

Dealing with set backs especially those never anticipated is often difficult. Some set backs come with painful lost time which may perhaps require weeks or months to recover; while some might never be regained. Accepting lost time and lost efforts or even resources that are drained by painful set backs is often not easy. However, one still has to move on. At times, one is often faced with the choice of either abandoning the project or continuing with it. Abandoning projects due to set backs or immediate failures is often the first psychological reaction to painful set backs or intense personal failures. At times like that, one needs to encourage oneself in order to move on. If one can get emotional support from well-wishers, the better. Hope often comes from encouragement from others.

The world does not care much about your failures. It see through the efforts you have made. It know whether you had given your best or not. But note, it only celebrates those who finally succeed at their great tasks. I encourage you to strive unto success. Set backs are only temporary, they shall pass. Let one look unto the crown of glory that waits one upon successfully attaining the best or hoped results from that which one seeks to accomplish. The walk through the road of success is difficult. You shall walk to the end of it for you have what it takes to accomplish that in you.

The Lies Men Tell

Lies come cheap especially in men’s relationships with women. I wonder if there is any man who hasn’t told a lie to his woman. Some tell lies so often that you cant tell when they are actually speaking the truth. Why do some men feel comfortable telling lies to their women, even when it is said that truth sets one free?

Often times I hear men say that woman preferred to be told lies for women seem more comfortable with it than truth. Is this idea a product man’s evolutionary experience or liars just simply recruiting more liars? I remember the many times some of my friends had told lies to their women because they thought telling them the truth would be unpleasant for they were afraid to face the consequences of their actions.

While it is true that both sexes play the games of lies, are lies not harmful to our relationships especially with the one, one has sworn to be with till death do one apart? Can one regain trust lost as a result of discovered lies told by one? Especially to those who easily believe one because of their trust in one?
Should one continue with lies to hold onto a relationship? Is it really worth being called a love relationship? Perhaps one may have entered into such a relationship because of some selfish motivations. Or are there inadequacies that one seeks to hide by hiding behind lies?

The truth has a way of coming out especially when one makes a habit of telling lies. A relationship built on truth out lives one which is not. If we do that which we are supposed to do, would there be opportunities to tell lies? If we flee from the temptations that could harm our relationships, would there be something to cover up?

In relationships, it is important one creates environment that encourages ones partner to speak the truth without fear of retribution or rejection. How one responds to one’s partner’s openness, goes a long way in determining how forth coming ones partner will be with the truth next time. While we have the capacity to do that which is right or make right choices; at times, we do not due to weaknesses and we may end up doing those things that cause us to be ashamed of telling the truth.

Truth is a choice. It is a product of the decision one makes. Unfortunately, there are those who have made a habit of telling lies. You never can tell where you stand with them on any issue. I feel sad for those whom have found themselves in relationships with these kinds of persons. Can one tell the many times they had cheated on one? The many broken promises? The true intentions they hold for one?

I hope we learn from the many broken relationships around and avoid their pitfalls. Indeed making lies a part of the foundation, is one of the reasons why some homes are no more.


Life throws at one, unpleasant situations at times. Some of which leaves one confused and sapped. At times, the worries that come with them are capable of stealing ones sleep, make one oblivious of the world around one and leave ones thoughts constantly spinning round for solutions. Imagine the feeling of helplessness that grips one in situations or challenges of which despite ones many modest efforts to resolve, nothing seem to work out at all? Perhaps, your problem is not being able to find a good job despite many attempts after many years leaving school; or, perhaps, a beloved has been really ill and you are at loss on how to help him or her despite the many trips with him or her to a few hospitals in the past or could it be about issues you face at work? Indeed, life’s challenges could be many!

While it’s true that if one continues to thrive with unwavering efforts, a problem or rather, challenge that looks insurmountable yesterday could become a celebrated victory today, but can life be the same accepting to live with those that defile ones efforts no matter how big or small the problems are? Can one live with the nagging pain of a splinter caught in a finger? To live with an ‘un-solvable’ problem, is it to overcome it?

How people respond to problem is diverse, but what drives their responses? Why would one take his or her own life in a bid to escape his or her problems? Can one truly escape ones troubles by taking one owns life? These questions, I do not have answers to. But I do know that which life has taught me, that is, no matter how big ones troubles are, even if they are strong enough to pull down the skies and leave one drenched in cascading tears, it is only a matter of time, they shall pass!

Aren’t men born to overcome problems? Are there situations of life that are hopeless cases? Couldn’t man’s striving efforts make a difference about them someday? Look at the many inventions man has brought to make life easy, before these inventions, were problems that hunted man, some even taking his life at will. Think about polio, small pox, and other deadly disease; think about the wasted hours spent on walking long distances or the significant efforts required to send messages across far away lands. Today, many of these problems are no more.

Can hope ever be lost? Do we need to give up on our tomorrow? Hope lights our path unto our journey of tomorrow. If one remains hope and do not give up, I am hopeful one shall find solution to the problem that has befallen one. Also, learn to ask for help when you can’t help yourself; you never can tell the helping hands that may be willing to reach out.